So often maintaining the status quo (although comfortable and secure) can be an unrecognised source of stress for us. Although change and doing things differently can be intimidating and anxiety provoking, the reality is that through the process of taking calculated risks actually allows us to experience more in our lives as we achieve things we have either always wanted to or which we thought were never possible.
As we sojourn into a new year, I wonder if you have made any resolutions to yourself to do things differently in 2013, or if you have set yourself some crazy and wild ambitions? If you have, well done, but remember this – it’s one thing to make these plans, but do you have the COURAGE to actually make your goals reality?
Often we become paralysed by the fear of failure and may deliberately (if subconsciously) sabotage our efforts so that we stay in an emotional and social territory that’s familiar (and therefore safer) to us.
My suggestion to you if you really, really, REALLY want to achieve that goal is to get out of your comfort zone, get your COURAGE boots on and go for it.
These COURAGE boosting pointers (which appear in no particular order) might be helpful:
1. Plan for what you are doing – if you don’t make the time for what ever it is you are wanting to do, it simply won’t happen (this is the calculated part of calculated risk)
2. Ask others for help. Most often people are really happy to provide support but you must be prepared to ask for (and of course accept) it
3. Set yourself a reward or many smaller rewards along the way to keep you motivated and keep the end goal in mind
4. Listen to your self talk. Turn up the volume on the positive things you are saying to yourself and turn that negative self talk right down
5. Focus on the positives but work out how to learn from the negatives
6. Embrace mistakes – they are part of the process
7. Keep in the back of your mind the thought ‘What is the worst thing that could happen if this fails?’ Often the answer to this is less catastrophic than you might actually realise
8. If the task seems too ginormous, chop it down into achievable, actionable parts and work away at it over a period of time
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9. ‘Feel the fear and do it anyway’